The passive aggressive movement.

One the things I have noticed that seems to be getting more and more common place is this notion that we all have to be nicey’ nice to those that offend us. Why?

Well in some respects… If your not nice as your being offended you are met with a passive aggressive retaliation. Aggressiveness lacking courage to be truthful. I have noticed this from more and more folks. Some folks deny they are part of the so called passive aggressive movement… They scoff and make fun of others while denying they are secretly sure they are cool and hip. The passive aggressive fangs really gleam from those folks. Then they plunge deeply into your neck or other parts of the anatomy. Mostly the part of the anatomy closest to your wallet.

I am not sure if it is a distorted political correctness or what one may call it. I just know that when dealing with people especially in the passive aggressive movement. I have run across a growing number of people who can be so easily offended by truthful statements. Then they turn on you in such a manner that it is confusing to me at times. Until the fangs have left their deep punctures. Then one is left bleeding.

I get nudged sometimes, actually a lot of the time. That I have to be nice about my being offended. Bullocks! Utter non sense. Look if I have done something to offend you, or offered a lousy service that you have paid for, I would fully expect to have it pointed out to me in a direct manner. Not some mamby’ pamby’ sideways passive aggressive manner. Or worse dare I say it… “Constructive criticism.” A passive aggressive term for, “Constructive destruction.” So when I am offended or given an actual reason to take offense why is it I seem to be stifled in an actual truthful response. I’ll tell ya’.

The decorum of this country has shifted to a nasty passive aggressive decorum. With subtle hints of being slighted. Subtle hints of possible litigation for pain and suffering. Those who respond in a direct manner are subject to being sued. I have seen it many times. The ultimate passive aggressive. Litigation.

Now please do not twist this into meaning I am for resorting to the name calling, that so many resort to when they know they are wrong. It is a matter of getting out of the playground from back in the fifth grade. Understanding how to speak intelligently while pointing out in the simplest of terms that you have been offended. (My expectations might be a bit higher than the reality of the usual decorum of this country.)

I suppose my chief complaint is that this nation is so far away from being civilized. It is evident in the day to day normal conversations that I witness and sometimes participate in. The separation between groups of people is ever widening. Exactly what the ruling class loves about all our useless bickering and twisting of truths. It fills their coffers with the peasants meager earnings and property.

If one is going to call me an idiot be prepared to back it up. Impress me back it up with two syllable words or three. Try not using expletives that describe a sexual act. I can take it. If one really and truly wants to impress me, be direct and leave the passive aggressive tactic at the door. Don’t hide behind it. It only shows the courage that one is lacking.

I am not trying to pick a fight here. I am tired though of the passive aggressive defense. I imagine that many who might read this are as well. The passive aggressive types can go pound sand as far as I’m concerned. They have no courage. I suppose in some way it is a form of snobbery. To sound snide that is. It maybe is a attempt to sound better than the one that was just offended. It is a defense that is about confusing the offended.

Case in point I watched this go down a few weeks ago and it has been bugging me for a while…

A worker in a retail store was putting the goods on the shelf. The co-worker or supervisor was criticizing the performance of the worker stocking a shelf. The worker commented quietly… “ I am putting up the amount you asked/ instructed me to… Just like you said to.” In a passive aggressive manner the co-worker/ supervisor said… “Oh I’m sorry you misunderstood did you miss the class about just saying no to drugs? Pity you could have learned how to count.” Wow, where did this person get off making such a harsh statement in front of the customer (me)? Let alone at all! The topper of it all was, this passive aggressive snot, looked in my direction and winked as they shook their head.

It was obvious to me there was a communication error, judging by the response from the co-worker it is possible that they made the mistake. The look on the co-worker/ supervisors face was a rather rosy blush. When the worker made the statement about the instructions that were given.

Well for those that know me… You know I said something, yet I practiced a small bit of decorum. “Is it necessary to be that rude and snide to others especially in front of your customers?” The passive aggressive left immediately. The worker stocking the shelf smiled at me and quietly said, “Thank you…”

Absolutely disgusting the way that so many communicate these days. I was offended in the above story and thought the passive aggressive had it coming. Why be a doormat being nicey nice is one thing, but being a door mat is intolerable. Letting someone else be a doormat is inexcusable. Lately the dividing line is getting murky.

Mostly my frustration comes from those who speak in their condescending passive aggressive tone. Whether I am making a complaint, or point out that I am offended by their behavior. Being passive aggressive does not make you right. It makes you aggressive with no courage. Let me repeat my self so that I am clear… Being passive aggressive does not make you right. It makes you aggressive with no courage. Much like a bully.

Chris…


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